We lost lives, and that grieves me. We lost lifestyles, which hurts as well. But what remained and what grew in light of what science says we could have lost makes me grateful now and keeps my hope stoked for the future.
As my clients and I consider re-emerging, I’m beginning to notice a set of anxious, even grief-type thoughts and emotions are also rising. Out of necessity I now describe this set of thoughts and emotions as “re-emergence stress.”
2020, a year that no one expected, warrants closure. This one took many drafts and more thought than some, and may take more unpacking as well, but, in the end, for me, it fits. I truly encourage you, try it this time.
“If I were to skip one, this is not the one to skip. This is maybe the most important one,” Jon said, then shocked himself into silence. He came to grips with his answer in pauses. “I need to think about that for a while. Yeah, maybe this is the most important—I don’t want to set the bar to high, Jeez,” he said, smiling at himself.
If we choose to prioritize our interdependence with others and take CDC mandated steps, we validate our own independence.
Let's continue to fight Corona. Let's build a better normal not just a new one. A normal where every race, color, gender identity and nationality has justice and safety. A normal where family is not just a byproduct of adult work life, but a homestead which blossoms the crop of our career from its soil.
Understanding and harnessing our growth, not living in the prior trauma, is key to crafting a Yellow life that is safe, enjoyable, and sustainable. Using two other trauma counseling tools; Gradual Exposure and Narrative Therapy we can craft that Yellow life in just three steps.
I believe that we will come through this better than we came in. Each of the resources I shared today had that theme in mind. They each have right now positive, fun help to provide but they also build for the future. Now is the time to start emotional, physical, spiritual and self care practices. Now, when there may be a few extra, quieter minutes in the day. I believe that we will reconnect, return to work and to school. Let's use these resources to start training for that time
These beliefs are formed in childhood, and often based on a child’s immature, ill-informed or egocentric view of the world. Thus, they’re almost always as deeply rooted, as they are totally wrong.
Ten years, ten articles, ten themes. Read on, reflect, and perhaps think of your own holiday traditions. How they started, what they mean, and why they’re so important every year.
